I have started my journey of learning about codependency. I have been reading about it off and on for over a year now. However, I have only recently understood the terms, meanings, and behaviors in the last week applying them to my behaviors. As well as others who are in my life. The more I read the more I am not so sure that I fall under the typical codependent behaviors.When I break down the signs of codependency, they seem different from what is described by others.
Meaning I have not read of others with codependent behaviors who stop the behaviors once they see them. I do not feel that I need a person to make me happy. I feel like I have gotten myself trapped into relationships that I never wanted to be in. It is as if one day I wake up and say, “Where the hell am I?” (Pardon the language.) I am processing though so who knows what I will determine about myself.
Before I go on I found these to be words of wisdom.
“It’s not a good idea to label yourself codependent, unless you plan to do something constructive about it. Because labels don’t empower you; they reinforce the undesired effect. Codependency is, however, a label of our time. So many facets of society are codependent. It’s usually synonymous with romance, too. Codependency is so ubiquitous that first of all, it’s hard to recognize. Secondly, it’s hard to end it — the healthy way.”
In the past when I have felt that I was dependent upon someone, or even something I cut it off.
Continued ... Mirroring Or Codependent?
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